How to Teach Your Inner Damsel In Distress To Save Herself
Do you envision a tall, dark, and handsome hunk in shining armor saving you whenever the snarled jaws of danger rear its ugly head? Are you the type to expect your man (or any man, really) to be at your beck and call no matter what? SNAP OUT OF IT SISTER. You’re not a character in one of Shakespeare’s poems. This is 2012; women are liberated- and damn proud of it! You shouldn’t have to rely solely on a male to tend to your every need. Okay, we’re not saying to totally abolish the male species, but jeez girl, you need to learn how to think and act for yourself. We realize men can be useful for distributing back massages, telling you how cute you are, and pounding that drunk jerk at the bar into the ground, but strong, independent women are insanely sexy. Let’s take a look at a few tips for grabbing your inner damsel in distress and teaching her a thing or two.
Define Yourself: First things first. Figure out what you like about yourself and what needs some sprucing up. Do you hate the way you agree with everyone, even if inside your head you’re saying the total opposite? How about your inability to make a decision and stick with it? Your hair? The clothes you wear? The latter are tangible but can still definitely contribute to the way you carry yourself. If there’s a topic you want to know more about, research it. Pore over books and learn; knowledge is power. Media and society are notorious for trying to mold us into something we’re not. Be true to yourself and discover who you really are as a person; be comfortable in your own skin. Adventure, explore, grow, push yourself to your limit. It may seem easier said than done, but it is possible. Once you do discover yourself, your confidence will radiate above anything else.
Independent Women: Just like Destiny’s Child crooned, independent women depend on themselves. Want that brand new Audi convertible? Put in extra hours, take out a loan, cut back on going out to eat, hell- sort through some old jewelry and see how much each diamond’s worth. Healthy relationships revolve around wanting to be with the other person or wanting to ask for help now and then, not needing them for everything. That’s just being clingy. The moral is this: if you work hard to purchase something you truly want, you’ll be rewarded not only with the object you’ve been eying up, but with an all-consuming feeling of accomplishment. It’s ecstasy, really, knowing you have the power to obtain anything you desire. Call us weird, but that feeling is something every woman should feel, and until you do, you won’t know what we’re talking about. Plus, when you do eventually acquire that stunning Audi, you’ll have all the boys’ attention, hook, line, and sinker. Oh, the life of a vixen.
Manage Space: Okay, so we get that you enjoy spending a great deal of time with your significant other, or potential hookup…or whatever. But here’s the thing: you both need your own space. Why? You know that thing he does that you find irresistibly cute now? Yeah, that’s about to get annoying after 2 consecutive weeks of being by his side 24/7. Trust us. Learn to do activities on your own or with other people you enjoy being around as well; schedule a weekly girls’ night, get a mani/pedi by yourself every month, join a gym with your best friend. Being together 24/7 (with anyone) can eventually smother your relationship, causing resentment or even a falling out. This way, the time you do spend together with your boy toy will be ten times sweeter because it’s not a habitual thing. A certain amount of distance adds spice, ladies. Plus, clingy broads are just plain annoying.
Kristy Kravitsky graduated from Pennsylvania State University and is now on her way to becoming a full time writer and traveler.